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I’m not sure who needs to read this, but…

It’s okay that you’ve changed.
It’s okay that you’re acting different.
That’s what growth can do for us, create shifts and beautiful evolutions.

I know some folks will use that against you, but remember that their fear of your growth and healing is not yours to carry.

When we choose to change, we are actively choosing to stand in our power. Release the shame from people who don’t get it. Let go of the guilt placed on you for taking a new path.

This month, let your healing show. Let it speak for you, even if some folks don’t like it or get it.

Drop a ❤️ if you’re choosing yourself right now.

Community, finish this sentence: This month, I am choosing…

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Here’s a sneak peek inside of my new book baby! You can pre-order at the link in my bio. Ahhh! I’m so excited.

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Someone recently asked me “how do you know when something is for you?” I didn’t have an answer on the spot.

But I did think about it—and from my personal experience, this is what came up.

Drop a ❤️ if you feel this.

Community: When did y’all know that something was for you (or not)?

Disclaimer: I’m loving the community conversation in the comments AND I want to make it clear that these gentle reminders are not for everyone’s life. They do not apply to everything. They will not resonate with everyone either. This list is a still a work in progress for me as I heal. For my fellow anxiety warriors, I see you. I know these words can be/feel complicated for us. There’s nothing wrong with any of us who have trouble deciphering what is for us and what is not. We are human. We are all just trying to figure things out. Life and healing is complex. I’m celebrating us all for trying. 🙏🏾

Keep good people close. The company we keep can make or break us. Be mindful.

Tag a the people in your life that show up for you. ❤️

Community, what type of folks are you staying close to?

Acceptance has taught me so much about emotionally maturity and protecting my peace.

Drop a ❤️ if you feel this.

Community, finish this sentence: The older I get, the more I accept…

As you heal, who you choose to share your time, energy, and space with will shift.

I knew I was healing when I stopped ignoring the signs and started paying attention to them.

Drop a ❤️ if you feel this.

Community: what did you start paying closer attention to on your healing journey?

HARD TRUTH: As you heal, you may have to walk away from people you love.

When I was going through a season of shedding, I quickly discovered that everyone couldn’t continue on the journey with me—and it hurt. It was challenging. I went backwards more times than I could count because letting go felt too painful.

Y’all know I’m not going to sell you dreams of bliss as your evolution happens. This soul work isn’t a game—it is really messy, can be isolating, and you’ll find out things about yourself and others that need to be unpacked, and at times, left behind—forever or for a little while.

As challenging as this is, releasing to make room doesn’t have to be tumultuous. That, too, will take practice and presence.

So if you’re on this pathway of letting go—even if that means loved ones may have to be given space—know that you’re not alone. Also know that walking away doesn’t always have to be permanent. Every situation is different. Either way, there’s a major lesson on the other side.

I talk more about this in depth in: HOW WE HEAL

Drop a ❤️ if you’re learning this.

Community: What are some hard truths that you’re learning as you evolve and grow?