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Wow. I never thought I’d see the day…

Been writing books for TEN years. And this finally happened for me. What a milestone in my career. Thank you ALL. So much. HOW WE HEAL is a NY TIMES BESTSELLER. 🥹😭🙌🏾
Some things to consider in 2023…

I am distancing myself from relationships that aren’t nourishing. I’ve been grappling with the many feelings I have around this. There’s a sense of loss on both sides.

However, I much rather feel nourishment within my relationships than empty and alone.

So while distancing may come with grief, I’m also finding deep gratitude in the connections I have with people who fill me up, as I do them.

The older I get, the more grateful I am for the easeful relationships in my life that don’t require heavy emotional lifting.

Community: What are you considering distancing yourself from?
WOW, wow! I got my advance copy of How We Heal today—and I damn near CRIED. This book is a labor of love. November 8th can’t come soon enough! I know y’all are going to love this book and return to it time and time again.

Here’s a sneak peek inside of my new book baby! You can pre-order at the link in my bio. Ahhh! I’m so excited.

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Note to Self: sometimes it’s YOU…

My healing journey has taught me that sometimes the problem is me. There was a season when I was stuck in my own way because I was too scared to change, too scared to fail and too scared to grieve who I no longer was.

I was sabotaging relationships and calling it boundaries. I was being avoidant and dysfunctional in my way of thinking. And I kept ignoring the issue that was at hand—which was: You need to change.

When I started changing and taking responsibility for my well-being, emotional nourishment, and life—things got better. Don’t get me wrong. This isn’t always easy , sometimes it’s still me who is the issue. Sometimes I still have to check myself, but I am no longer blaming anything or anyone for me being unhappy. I take my power back by owning my role in my own healing and growth.

What about y’all? How is it “sometimes you?”
This month, may you remember…

You're capable of handling any challenges that come your way.
You're allowed to be confident in your abilities.
You deserve happiness, joy, and life's beauty.
To trust your instincts and intuition.
To value your time and energy.

Drop a ❤️ if you’ll try to keep these close this month.

Community: What do you intend to carry with you this month?
Some Black fatherhood joy to make you laugh and smile today. BHM lessons for us ALSO include teaching our teenager iconic dances from the early 2000s. 😭😂😭
The older I get, the more I realize that I know what I want more than I give myself credit for…

I am grounded.
I am clear-minded.
I am deliberate with my words and actions.

Mantra for this week: I am allowed to know what I want and like. On the days that I don’t know what my heart’s desires are, I give myself permission to rest easy in the unknown. I don’t need to be fixed or fixing. I am open to witnessing myself so that I can get closer to my truth.

Community: What are y’all realizing this season?